αិαីαាα្α្αα§α
ំαុα
αែαα្αើα’ោααើααាααα្αាα់α្α’αិαα្ααិα្ααាαα្αα់
THE 7 HABITS OF HIGHLY EFFECTIVE
PEOPLE
(Stephen
R.
Covey)
HABIT 1: BE PROACTIVE
Your life doesn't just "happen." Whether you know
it or not, it is carefully designed by you. The choices, after all, are yours.
You choose happiness. You choose sadness. You choose decisiveness. You choose
ambivalence. You choose success. You choose failure. You choose courage. You
choose fear. Just remember that every moment, every situation, provides a new
choice. And in doing so, it gives you a perfect opportunity to do things
differently to produce more positive results.
Habit 1: Be Proactive is about taking responsibility for your
life. You can't keep blaming everything on your parents or grandparents.
Proactive people recognize that they are "response-able." They don't
blame genetics, circumstances, conditions, or conditioning for their behavior.
They know they choose their behavior. Reactive people, on the other hand, are
often affected by their physical environment. They find external sources to
blame for their behavior. If the weather is good, they feel good. If it isn't,
it affects their attitude and performance, and they blame the weather. All of
these external forces act as stimuli that we respond to. Between the stimulus
and the response is your greatest power--you have the freedom to choose your
response. One of the most important things you choose is what you say. Your
language is a good indicator of how you see yourself. A proactive person uses
proactive language--I can, I will, I prefer, etc. A reactive person uses
reactive language--I can't, I have to, if only. Reactive people believe they are
not responsible for what they say and do--they have no choice.
Instead of reacting to or worrying about conditions over
which they have little or no control, proactive people focus their time and
energy on things they can control. The problems, challenges, and opportunities
we face fall into two areas--Circle of Concern and Circle of Influence.
Proactive people focus their efforts on their Circle of
Influence. They work on the things they can do something about: health,
children, problems at work. Reactive people focus their efforts in the Circle
of Concern--things over which they have little or no control: the national
debt, terrorism, the weather. Gaining an awareness of the areas in which we expand
our energies in is a giant step in becoming proactive.
αα្αាα់αីα‘៖
ααα្ααុα (Be Proactive)
αα្αាα់αេះαα្αូαα±្ααើααាαα
ិα្αα្αα់
αិαα±្αα្ααិαα្ααα ័ααោαα្αាααាααិαα្αឹαα្αូαα
្αាα់ αាα់α
ំαោះα្αាααាαα¬αឿααាααាαួα
។ α្αូαα្αើαាαុαα្αα
េះαាααាαα្αិះαិះαិα
ាααាα្αឹαα្αូα αិααុααូα ។ α្αើαាααុα្ααឹαα៉ឹα
α’ំαα់ αាααុα្ααាααំαួααុαα្αូαα្αα់ αិαα្αីαα្αោαα’្ααααៃ αα្α ា αេααាαា αα្ααាαិ
α¬α្αួαα―ααេ α្αូααាααំαួααុαα្αូα αិα α្αូαα
េះαិះ αααំαោះα្αាααិααៀαα
ំα្αួαα្ααααោααិα
ាααα្αាαα្αα់
។ α§αាα αα៍αា α្αៃαេះαេαα្αៀαα ើααα់α៉ោααៅ αៀααៀα αើαាααុα្αα្αាα αំαួααុαα្αូαα្αα ែααេααៅα្αៈαាα់α ើα
αែαើαាααុα្ααំαួααុαα្αូααិα αេαឹααួαα្αួαα―ααាα្αូα αៅαៀααោαααៀααា αិαα ើααឹααាαៅαោα
ααៀααាαោះ α’ាαα្αៀα α័α្ααាαើα ។ αូα
្αេះαិαα្αូααα្αោααេះαα្αោααោះ αេ α្αូααាααំαួααុαα្αូααើα្αួαα―α
។
HABIT 2: BEGIN WITH THE END IN MIND
So, what do you want to be when you grow up? That question
may appear a little trite, but think about it for a moment. Are you--right
now--who you want to be, what you dreamed you'd be, doing what you always
wanted to do? Be honest. Sometimes people find themselves achieving victories
that are empty--successes that have come at the expense of things that were far
more valuable to them. If your ladder is not leaning against the right wall,
every step you take gets you to the wrong place faster.
Habit 2 is based on imagination--the ability to envision in
your mind what you cannot at present see with your eyes. It is based on the
principle that all things are created twice. There is a mental (first)
creation, and a physical (second) creation. The physical creation follows the
mental, just as a building follows a blueprint. If you don't make a conscious
effort to visualize who you are and what you want in life, then you empower other
people and circumstances to shape you and your life by default. It's about
connecting again with your own uniqueness and then defining the personal,
moral, and ethical guidelines within which you can most happily express and
fulfill yourself. Begin with the End in Mind means to begin each day, task, or
project with a clear vision of your desired direction and destination, and then
continue by flexing your proactive muscles to make things happen.
One of the best ways to incorporate Habit 2 into your life is
to develop a Personal Mission Statement. It focuses on what you want to be and
do. It is your plan for success. It reaffirms who you are, puts your goals in
focus, and moves your ideas into the real world. Your mission statement makes
you the leader of your own life. You create your own destiny and secure the
future you envision.
αα្αាα់αីα’៖
α
ាα់α្αើααីα
ំαុα
αα្αα់α្αុαα
ិα្α (Begin with the end in mind) αំαាα់αេះαα្αូαα±្ααើαα
េះαំαα់αិααៀαα
ំαោααៅαំαាα់αាααិα្αា
αាααាα α្αួαាα α ិαα្ααα្αុ αំαួααាαើα ។ αួαα្αួαα―ααា α
α់αៀαα’្αី α
α់α្αើα’្αីα
α់αៀααាα
αេααា α
αααα
α់α៊ីα’្αី α្αូαα±្αα
្αាα់ ។ αាααាααោααៅα
្αាα់αាα់αាα’្αីα’្αα α្αូααិαα‘ើααិα
។ αាαα
េះαំαα់αិααៀαα
ំαោααៅαួαα²្ααាαα
្αាα់αាα់ αា α ាα់αីαូα
αាα
α្αៀααួααα្αាα់αំα្αឺα្αូααែα
αាαីαα្αែααែααើα α
α់α្αោះαៅαα។
HABIT 3: PUT FIRST THINGS FIRST
To live a more balanced existence, you have to recognize that
not doing everything that comes along is okay. There's no need to overextend
yourself. All it takes is realizing that it's all right to say no when
necessary and then focus on your highest priorities.
Habit 1 says, "You're in charge. You're the
creator." Being proactive is about choice. Habit 2 is the first, or
mental, creation. Beginning with the End in Mind is about vision. Habit 3 is
the second creation, the physical creation. This habit is where Habits 1 and 2
come together. It happens day in and day out, moment-by-moment. It deals with
many of the questions addressed in the field of time management. But that's not
all it's about. Habit 3 is about life management as well--your purpose, values,
roles, and priorities. What are "first things?" First things are
those things you, personally, find of most worth. If you put first things
first, you are organizing and managing time and events according to the
personal priorities you established in Habit 2.
αα្αាα់αីα£៖
αាα់α’្αីαំαាα់αុα (Put First things first)
αα្αាα់αីαាα
αំαα់αោααិααៀαα
ំαោααៅαួα
αាα់ α្αូαα
េះαំαα់αាα’្αី α្αូαα្αើαុααα្αាα់ αិα α
ុαα្αោααេαα្α’α់
។ α្αូααាααាααិαាαααα្ααាαα្αα
ាំα្αៃ αα្αាα ៍ α¬αែ αើα្αីαα្αេα
αាααាααាំααោះαាα αំαាα់αំαោα
αោααិααាααេααα់ αួααាα‘ើα ។ αាំααេះαាαាααាំα្ααα់αែααាααិααោααៅαំαាα់αំαើα αិαិα
ααα់α’្ααα±្ααោះαាα់αាααោαα័α ។ α្ααិααើαើααិααាααាα់α’្αីαំαាα់ αុα α¬α្αើα’្αីαៅαាααាααឹααើα
αាα្αα ែααិαាα αα្αេα
αα្αិαααែαα្αួαα
α់ αាααាα់ α្αូαα
ំαាααេαα
្αើα αាαα§ααα្αα
្αើααិαាααោះα្αាα
α¬α្αូααα្αα់αំαើαα៏αាα α¬αេαα្αៈαិαα’ាα
αα្αេα
αα្αិαែα្αα αែααេαិαα αិαាααាααួαααាα័ααើαាααាααាំααេះ។
HABIT 4: THINK WIN-WIN
Think Win-Win isn't about being nice, nor is it a quick-fix
technique. It is a character-based code for human interaction and
collaboration.
Most of us learn to base our self-worth on comparisons and
competition. We think about succeeding in terms of someone else failing--that
is, if I win, you lose; or if you win, I lose. Life becomes a zero-sum game.
There is only so much pie to go around, and if you get a big piece, there is
less for me; it's not fair, and I'm going to make sure you don't get anymore.
We all play the game, but how much fun is it really?
Win-win sees life as a cooperative arena, not a competitive
one. Win-win is a frame of mind and heart that constantly seeks mutual benefit
in all human interactions. Win-win means agreements or solutions are mutually
beneficial and satisfying. We both get to eat the pie, and it tastes pretty
darn good!
A person or organization that approaches conflicts with a
win-win attitude possesses three vital character traits:
1. Integrity:
sticking with your true feelings, values, and commitments
2. Maturity:
expressing your ideas and feelings with courage and consideration for the ideas
and feelings of others
3. Abundance
Mentality: believing there is plenty for everyone
Many people think in terms of either/or: either you're nice
or you're tough. Win-win requires that you be both. It is a balancing act
between courage and consideration. To go for win-win, you not only have to be
empathic, but you also have to be confident. You not only have to be
considerate and sensitive, you also have to be brave. To do that--to achieve
that balance between courage and consideration--is the essence of real maturity
and is fundamental to win-win.
αα្αាα់αីα€៖
αិα α្αៈ α្αៈ (Think Win/Win)
αៅα្αុαα
ំαុα
αេះα
α់α±្ααើααិααី
αំαោះα្αាααាα្αៈα
ំαោះ α្αα់αាαី αាα់α័α្α αិααាααាαីαាα
ាα់α¬ αិαααួαααα
ំαោះαំαោះα្αាααោះαេ
។ α្αα់α្αា α្αៈαាααើααួαំαាα់ αាα់α្αាααាα αែααα្αាαាααូααំαាα់αំαα αិα្ααាα αាαα្αីαាα
αα αាα αៃαូα αិα αាααីαα
α្αើααាំαα’α់α្αា ។ αើαាαα’្ααα្αៈ α¬ α’្ααα
ាα់α្αុα αាαៈαេαៈ
αាαួααោះ αិααិααាααេα
α្αីαុααីα α
α្αើααោះαែα ។ α្αើα’្αីα្α’ែααើαα α្ααោαα៍αួααើααα្αααាααាααីα
α
α្αើα αាαាααំαិαα’ាα្αាαិαααែαα្αៃ α្αោααាααα្α ាα
្αើαα’ាα
αើαα‘ើα។
HABIT 5: SEEK FIRST TO UNDERSTAND, THEN TO BE UNDERSTOOD
Communication is the most important skill in life. You spend
years learning how to read and write, and years learning how to speak. But what
about listening? What training have you had that enables you to listen so you
really, deeply understand another human being? Probably none, right?
If you're like most people, you probably seek first to be
understood; you want to get your point across. And in doing so, you may ignore
the other person completely, pretend that you're listening, selectively hear
only certain parts of the conversation or attentively focus on only the words
being said, but miss the meaning entirely. So why does this happen? Because
most people listen with the intent to reply, not to understand. You listen to
yourself as you prepare in your mind what you are going to say, the questions
you are going to ask, etc. You filter everything you hear through your life
experiences, your frame of reference. You check what you hear against your
autobiography and see how it measures up. And consequently, you decide
prematurely what the other person means before he/she finishes communicating.
Do any of the following sound familiar?
"Oh, I know just how you feel. I felt the same
way." "I had that same thing happen to me." "Let me tell
you what I did in a similar situation."
Because you so often listen autobiographically, you tend to
respond in one of four ways:
Evaluating: You judge and then either agree or
disagree.
Probing: You ask questions from your
own frame of reference.
Advising: You give counsel, advice,
and solutions to problems.
Interpreting: You analyze others' motives and
behaviors based on your own experiences.
You might be saying, "Hey, now wait a minute. I'm just
trying to relate to the person by drawing on my own experiences. Is that so bad?"
In some situations, autobiographical responses may be appropriate, such as when
another person specifically asks for help from your point of view or when there
is already a very high level of trust in the relationship.
αα្αាα់αីα₯៖ α្αែαα±្ααα់ αុααេααα់(Seek
First to Understand, Then to be understood) αៅα្αα់α
ំαុα
αេះαាααα្αៀαα±្ααើαα
េះα្αែααααើαα េαុ
αើααα αុααេααα្αα់ α¬αα់αើαα’្αីαួα ។ αិαα្αូαα្αើαាααុα្αα
α់αα់ αោαα’α់ αឹαα េαុ αាααុα្ααិαα
េះα្αាα់α េαុαα
αើαα’្αីαាα ្αឹααោααិα αាααិα ។ αα្αាα់αួααេះα្αោαα
្αើααៅαើαំαាα់αំαα αើαα្αូαα
េះα’α្αេαα េαុ
α’្αីαាααាαៅα៉ាααេះ? αើαααα៉ាααាαែα? α្αេα
αα់α្αាα់α ្αឹα? αិαα្αូααាα αα្αៃαែαំαα់α្αៅ α¬α
េះαែαាα់αα់αោααិααាαα្αាα់α េαុαααេαោះαេ
។ α្αូαααα±្ααើα αូααុαឹααα់ αើααាα់αាααិα αាααα្αេα
α
ិα្α α¬αាααα់ αើααាαាαិααាααំα ុαα្αα
។
HABIT 6: SYNERGIZE
To put it simply, synergy means "two heads are better
than one." Synergize is the habit of creative cooperation. It is teamwork,
open-mindedness, and the adventure of finding new solutions to old problems.
But it doesn't just happen on its own. It's a process, and through that
process, people bring all their personal experience and expertise to the table.
Together, they can produce far better results that they could individually.
Synergy lets us discover jointly things we are much less likely to discover by
ourselves. It is the idea that the whole is greater than the sum of the parts.
One plus one equals three, or six, or sixty--you name it.
When people begin to interact together genuinely, and they're
open to each other's influence, they begin to gain new insight. The capability
of inventing new approaches is increased exponentially because of differences.
Valuing differences is what really drives synergy. Do you
truly value the mental, emotional, and psychological differences among people?
Or do you wish everyone would just agree with you so you could all get along?
Many people mistake uniformity for unity; sameness for oneness. One
word--boring! Differences should be seen as strengths, not weaknesses. They add
zest to life.
αα្αាα់αីα¦៖ α
េះα្αើαាααាααាα្αុα (Synergize) αិααាαααុα្αα’ាα
α្αើαាααាα αួααាααោα័ααោαα្αាααាαα
ូααួααីα’្ααααៃ
α¬α្αើαាααាααាα្αុααោះαេ α្αាα់αែαាααូααាααិα
α¬α៏α
្αើααែα៉ុα្αោះ ។ αើα្αីα±្ααាααាααាααំαើααាαα្α’
αិααាααាααីαα
α្αើα αាααាαα
េះα្αើαាααាααាα្αុα αើααα្αិαααោះαាα αα្ααៈα្αα់α្αុαα្αោα
។ α§αាα αα៍α±្ααាααα់ αៀααៅαែαα្α’αិα αែα αααេααោααំαិααែα្αាα់αោះαេ α្αូααាααំαិααេαα្αែα
។ αិα
្α
αាααាαាα្αុα αាαα្α’α្αូααាααាαα
ូααួα αីααាαិαα្αុα αាំαα’α់ ។ αាααាαα្ααេααាαិ
α្αុα α ៊ុα α្αួαាα αិα αាααាααα្αααាαើα α្αូαα
េះα្αើαាααាααាα្αុααើααាααាααីα
α
α្αើα αាំαα’α់α្αា ។
HABIT 7: SHARPEN THE SAW
Sharpen the Saw means preserving and enhancing the greatest
asset you have--you. It means having a balanced program for self-renewal in the
four areas of your life: physical, social/emotional, mental, and spiritual.
Here are some examples of activities:
Physical: Beneficial
eating, exercising, and resting
Social/Emotional: Making social and
meaningful connections with others
Mental: Learning,
reading, writing, and teaching
Spiritual: Spending
time in nature, expanding spiritual self through meditation, music, art,
prayer, or service
As you renew yourself in each of the four areas, you create
growth and change in your life. Sharpen the Saw keeps you fresh so you can
continue to practice the other six habits. You increase your capacity to
produce and handle the challenges around you. Without this renewal, the body
becomes weak, the mind mechanical, the emotions raw, the spirit insensitive,
and the person selfish. Not a pretty picture, is it?
Feeling good doesn't just happen. Living a life in balance
means taking the necessary time to renew yourself. It's all up to you. You can
renew yourself through relaxation. Or you can totally burn yourself out by
overdoing everything. You can pamper yourself mentally and spiritually. Or you
can go through life oblivious to your well-being. You can experience vibrant
energy. Or you can procrastinate and miss out on the benefits of good health
and exercise. You can revitalize yourself and face a new day in peace and
harmony. Or you can wake up in the morning full of apathy because your
get-up-and-go has got-up-and-gone. Just remember that every day provides a new
opportunity for renewal--a new opportunity to recharge yourself instead of
hitting the wall. All it takes is the desire, knowledge, and skill.
αα្αាα់αីα§៖ αα្αៀαααាα (Sharpen
the Saw) αាα់ααα្ααα
ំαុα
αេះ αើαα្αូααិαិα្αα‘ើααិααូα
αុααាαα្αូααាα αុααាα α្αូαα
ិα្α α្αាααី αិααំαាα់ αំααα្αុααα្αα ។ αោះαីαាαើααើααα់αាα៏αោααើ
αុααាαα្αូααាα αុααាαα្αូαα
ិα្α α្αាααី αិααំαាα់αំααα្αុααα្αα αិααាα α¬α្αេα
αិααីαាαើααុំ
αែααាααុα្ααោαα័ααែα ។ αូα
្αេះα្αូαα
េះααα
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